Infidelity
I wrote these articles for anyone living with infidelity, whether you're the one who cheated or the one who was betrayed. They cover affairs, discovery, disclosure, and what it really takes to rebuild trust in a marriage.
6 articles, newest first
How to Prepare for a Formal Disclosure (and Why Rushing It Backfires)
PublishedWhat a formal disclosure involves: the usual timeline, the disclosure letter, the partner's impact letter, how you both prepare and why rushing backfires.
Read the article →How to Rebuild Trust After Porn or Sex Addiction
PublishedCan trust be rebuilt after porn or sex addiction? What the partner in recovery has to do, what transparency looks like, how long it takes, and where to start.
Read the article →I Found My Husband's Porn. What Do I Do Now?
PublishedJust found your husband's porn? What to do in the first 72 hours: steadying yourself, whether to confront him, who to tell, your health and your own support.
Read the article →How Do I Tell My Wife About My Porn Addiction?
PublishedShould you tell your wife about your porn addiction, and how? What to say first, what not to say, how she may react, and why to plan it with professional help.
Read the article →Couples Counseling After Disclosure: What the First Months Look Like
PublishedThe first months of couples counseling after a sex or porn addiction disclosure: early agreements, the impact letter, triggers, intimacy and signs of progress.
Read the article →Betrayal Trauma After Sex or Pornography Addiction: How Partners Heal, and What Happens After Disclosure
PublishedBetrayal trauma after sex or porn addiction: how partners heal, what therapeutic disclosure is, and when couples work helps.
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